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Wherever perfectionism is driving, shame is riding shotgun. Perfectionism is not about healthy striving, which you see all the time in successful leaders, it’s not about trying to set goals and being the best we can be, perfectionism is basically a cognitive behavioral process that says if I look perfect, work perfect, and do everything perfectly, I can avoid shame, ridicule, and criticism. It’s a defense mechanism.

"Why Doing Awesome Work Means Making Yourself Vulnerable"

So, I’ve been waiting for someone to explain this extremely simple concept to me my entire life.

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Hooooly shit I needed to read this article.

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kingyo-no-unko:

Surfing through the net and stumbling across this:

http://whatjapanthinks.com/2014/04/14/takarazuka-fans-surprising-unwritten-rules/

"When a ‘sienne announces her retirement, they weep all day and cannot face work, school”. Weep. All. Day. 

"They work out prices of things in multiples of S seats (8,500 yen currently)"  ww

Some of my favourites:

They know all about the French Revolution and the Habsburgs

When they tidy up their room they find violet bags (from buying official programmes, souvenirs, etc) everywhere

They think that they’d like to make remembering Takarazuka-related information a bit less like study

They try walking down stairs without looking at their feet

amuseoffyre:

saucefactory:

verysharpteeth:

dylanmoans:

W i p e him. Start over.

What kills me is up to that last gif he hasn’t been making eye contact. He’s been lost in his own confusion and memories and even his lashing out is not from a desire to hurt everyone, but from flashbacks. He’s treated like a thing and he acts like a thing. Even his not answering how Pierce wants isn’t defiant, it’s like a broken record. He’s completely submissive to everyone in that room, disturbingly so. The scene was him being completely vulnerable (he has weapons pulled on him, he’s half dressed surrounded by men in SWAT gear, he looks like a chastened child).

But the last gif he makes eye contact. Because this question is so important to him. Seventy years of being a THING and there’s this glimmer of SOMETHING. There’s a name. There’s a person. There’s a chance he’s not just some weapon to be used and abused as needed. They talk around him, they ignore him, they abuse him…but this is important enough for him to pursue. So he makes eye contact. Like a HUMAN. That eye contact. That look of “I KNOW I know this…and I know you’re gonna take it from me…I know you’re going to hurt me for knowing this…but I KNOW it no matter what you say”. That second gif is regret that he can’t let go of this rabbit trail, but that third one…that third one says “I know you’re lying to me and I know that doesn’t matter because I’m too broken to fight back, but I know I’m right”.

No wonder Pierce doesn’t even bother to demand anything but wiping him after that look. His weapon just looked at him like a human.

EXCUSE ME, FANDOM, BUT COULD YOU STOP IT WITH YOUR ACCURATE AND HEART-BREAKING META LONG ENOUGH FOR ME TO PULL MYSELF BACK TOGETHER? THANKS.

That expression in the last one, that is fierce. They say wipe him, but you can see him thinking “HELL NO. I DON’T HAVE ANYTHING, BUT I HAVE THAT MAN’S FACE. I REMEMBER HIM. I WILL REMEMBER HIM. YOU CAN WIPE ME, BUT I WILL. I WILL. I WILL.”

And it takes Steve being small and beat down, the way Bucky has seen him a thousand times before. It’s not until Steve is on his back, weak and helpless as he always was in their youth, in need of Bucky to save him, that Bucky could grasp at that fragile wisp of a memory again. That’s why Bucky saved him.

Because when Steve was beaten and on his back, Bucky was always there to save him.

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